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Friday, 1 May 2015

Striving For a Fake Reality : #MyFakeReality

Everyday when we turn the pages of any magazines or we see a billboard, we see people beyond perfection.
Crystal clear skin, oh my...that pointy nose and chiselled face, Perfect makeup and hair done. So different from us. So different from "Real People". So much far from Reality.
Ever wondered what is it like when all these high quality enhancements are removed!!! What we see through is a real woman. With flaws. With imperfections.
Today, me and these beautiful ladies from across the world, present to you our cover shots. Yes !!! We are all airbrushed and enhanced to meet the fake reality !!!

" I am just like you who has blemishes, who doesn't have a pointy nose or chiseled face, who has flabs, jiggly arms, dimpled thighs, has flaws is her appearance. Arpita is perfectly imperfect!!! "

ARPITA

Arpita's Blog

" Perfection in latin means 'finished' and.. Who the hell wants to be finished?! "

SILVIA

CoolAunts Blog

" I used to care what people thought and said about me. I used to feel hurt when they constantly asked me to lose weight - and then I went to the US and found myself. Now, I don't give a damn if they don't like me - I Love Myself and I don't let anyone tell me different! "

FIZA

Das Rock Haus

" Mirror, Mirror On The Wall, Who Is The Prettiest Of Them All? "

SAIDA

Saida Chahid Blog

"My so called IMPERFECTION makes me one of a kind, and I love it!"

NADIA

My Fancy Wardrobe

" Just because I'm a model, doesn't mean I look perfect, not even for photoshoots. I love my imperfections, every single one! "

EMMA

Anchors Away Beauty

" I find beauty in my imperfections, whether it's non-symmetrical winged eyeliner, or a bad hair day. I embrace the imperfect because it makes me me - someone who always tries to see the best in myself and the world around me. "

EMILY

Modern Midwest Maven

" My so-called imperfections tell a story: those dark circles are a trait of an engineering student, my scars show that acne will not defeat my confidence, I've decided to be myself, because everybody else is already taken. "

ALYSSA

Queen Regnant Blog

"I have accepted my flaws, because what others see as flaws, I see as beautiful!"

EVELYN

IndiaLynRose Blog

"I am me. I am proud of who I am. I don't want to look flawless to feel fabulous!"

KAYLEIGH

Sprinkle & Sparkle of Kayleigh

" The mirror can lie, it doesn't show you what's inside, and it can tell you you're full of lies! "

MARIE

TheBeauTMum Blog

All of us camouflage ourselves, wear makeup, touch up our pictures, wear body shapers to hide our flabs. And its perfectly fine to do a little bit of photoshop.
But the most important thing is how we feel inside. How we feel about ourself when all these camouflage is down. Its all about embracing ourselves and being proud of what we are.
So stop striving for the fake reality, cause my beautiful, whom you see on the magazine covers or billboard are no different from you.
Just stay happy and thankful. Cause you are beautiful. Your flaws are pretty.
CAUSE YOU ARE PERFECTLY IMPERFECT !!!

My heartfelt THANKS to all these lovely ladies and special THANKS to FIZA from DAS ROCK HAUS for coming up with this amazing idea and involving us all !!!

P.S. Find the original post and more at DAS ROCK HAUS

* This Post is not intended to offend anyone in anyway, its just an eye opener for all who run behind being magazine perfect all their life.

Saturday, 11 April 2015

Embrace your body, MY TIPS

Oh she is short, ugly. Oh she is tall, ugly. She is fat, gross. She is thin, pity. Look at her legs, its hairy. OMG her nose is too small. Look he is so dark. That guy is ewwwww bald. She had long hairs, ugly.
Seriously, I am tired of constantly listening to these shits that our society has set. What is beauty? Who is considered beautiful? A person who is tall? NO. A person who is short? NO. Thin? NO. Fat? NO. Who is that ideal person? Each and everyone of us are pulled down by our society. Each and everyone of us, despite of who we are, how we look, have been negatively criticised.

Everyday as soon as we open a magazine, or switch on our televisions, we are constantly fed with the photoshopped definition of beauty. We are all made to feel bad about ourselves. Not only by media but also by people around us. A girl who is a size 16 is called FAT and looked down upon. The same girl when starved her butt off and is now size 0 is called too SKINNY. I mean what is the STANDARD of beauty. Do any of you know? Where is the standard written? I don't know and I am sure you guys dont know either.
There is no hard coded, legal, stamped standard for beauty. But still most of us. No not most. All of us try to reach those standards which doesn't even exists.
WHY? Why we need to change the way we look? Why we need to satisfy others and need praises from them? WHY?????

I have tried all my life to be thin. YES. But I never actually became thin. Because this is how my body is. I have curves, some extra junk in the trunk. A few flabs. I am built that way. I love food. I can't starve myself to be thin. I am healthy, I can't exercise 24/7 and fall ill. I do my bit of things to stay healthy and fit and I am happy with that. Why to try achieve something or to be someone which is not ME.
I have seen people, trying to look like something else and ended up in grave consequences. Our internet floods with examples of plastic surgery addiction, anaeroxia (eating disorder) and many more.
Trust me guys, even if you become "BEAUTIFUL" and fit all the standards defined by our society, still people will find ways to put you down. So why waste your time, money and above all why waste yourself and your life.
Well, I want to share with you my 5 secrets which I have followed to change my perception. To be confident and to accept myself happily as I am.

Stop consuming negativity. Just stay away from things/people which makes you feel bad bout yourself. Makes you feel not so good about yourself. I personally stay away from all such media which feeds me with negativity.Be it any person on social media or any magazine or any particular tv show, I cut them out of my life. Cause boss you have the choice to filter what you consume.
Count your blessings. You may not have the perfect eyes, but atleast you have eyes. You may be fat, atleast you are fit and not having any serious illness. You have food to eat. You have people around you who loves you. Whenever I feel bad about my looks, I think about my blessings.
Trust yourself. This is one of the important thing. You should always have trust on your abilities. Even if someone says you that you are incapable of doing something, you should trust your capabilities and believe that YES I CAN DO IT. Donot ever underestimate yourself for some ignorant person. People will judge, because life is a race and everyone tries to be the best, but some stupid people tried to pull you down constantly by judging you, by making you feel bad everytime. Now its upto you whether you will be pulled back and rise high.
Get all dolled up. Yes, dress up. Wear you favourite dress. Your favourite pair of shoes. Apply makeup. Flaunt your style. And trust me that will boost your confidence this high.
Indulge in Positivity. Always try to surround yourself with positivity. Be it positive people or positive books or positive thoughts or anything. The people we meet, the books we read or the things we come in contact with in our day to day life really affects or inner self and our confidence. So always stay away from negativity.

Well my lovely beauties, I hope my 5tips help you be more confident and positive and above all HAPPY. If you have anything you want to talk about or need any help, remember you have a friend here just a mail away. Do mail me at arpita.fb@gmail.com

See you guys in my next post, till then flaunt yourself cause you totally worth it !!!

Thursday, 15 January 2015

Your Weight Doesn't Define YOU !!!

When you step on a weighing machine what do you see???? Do you see your reflection?NO. Do you see a list of your characters?NO. Do you see your personality?hell NO.You just see a number. A mere 2digit/3digit number. And you let this just a number decide your life.WOW

Our weight, dress size are just numbers, it doesn't speak anything about the person we are. It doesn't define how we live our life.It should never affect the way we feel about ourself. Earlier I was 81kgs and now

after having a baby I am 90.3kgs. So????Does it change me as a person? Does it means I should no longer wear fashionable clothes? Does it mean I am changed? NO
I am still the same Arpita. Still the same mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend and beauty and fashion lover. I still wear whatever I love. I still get compliments.I still walk my head high.I still love my life and enjoy it to the fullest.

But that doesn't mean I never ever worry about being a plus size girl, no. There are times when I feel low. There are days when I feel meh about the way I look. There are days when I get angry on GOD and ask him why he made me fat. And you know what ITS OK TO NOT BE OK. Its ok to feel bad sometimes. Its normal to not like yourself ones in a while. Cause that will give you that kick to love yourself even more. To embrace yourself and to accept things the way they are and enjoy your life even more.
When I first got into beauty and fashion,I was really self conscious, embarrass about me being trendy. What people will think?What if they laugh at me? Was I making a fool of myself? I was really scared.But eventually I learned that people see what you show to them. If you feel beautiful, you look beautiful. And still if some people talk behind your back, well those a@#holes belongs where they are, behind you. Don't care about them. Remember they talk about you cause they are pure Jealous and they can never be as confident as you. If you are confident you can carry anything gracefully. Its not about your figure, its about your attitude.Its about your personality. When we go out, we don't go with a board around our neck with our weight written on it. We go with our personality. Boost that.
So long story short exercise, change your lifestyle, do whatever you want but never ever let that trivial number on your weighing machine rule your life. You rule our life. Your life is under your control. A number is not incharge of your happiness. So next time when you step on that machine and it shows a number, treat it as a number not as YOU.
Be happy, be confident and walk with your head high....And stay gorgeous cause you totally worth it.

Tuesday, 15 May 2012

Happy Birthday To Me :)

It was my Birthday yesterday and I was really pumped up from the Mid Night.
I had a great day with my Hubby.He really made my day with so much love and fun :)
I got so many lovely wishes from my family and friends....I love them a lot :)
Here are few pics !!!!

Love you all :)

Wednesday, 9 May 2012

Surprise !!! Got A Parcel

Hello beauties.I am sure all of us love gifts :) So do I !!! I got a parcel today from my dearest friend Mamat.Mamat is a talented makeup artist here in Kuala Lumpur and a very good friend to me.
He sent me a box full of goodies :)