Your Weight Doesn't Define YOU !!!

When you step on a weighing machine what do you see???? Do you see your reflection?NO. Do you see a list of your characters?NO. Do you see your personality?hell NO.You just see a number. A mere 2digit/3digit number. And you let this just a number decide your life.WOW

Our weight, dress size are just numbers, it doesn't speak anything about the person we are. It doesn't define how we live our life.It should never affect the way we feel about ourself. Earlier I was 81kgs and now

after having a baby I am 90.3kgs. So????Does it change me as a person? Does it means I should no longer wear fashionable clothes? Does it mean I am changed? NO
I am still the same Arpita. Still the same mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend and beauty and fashion lover. I still wear whatever I love. I still get compliments.I still walk my head high.I still love my life and enjoy it to the fullest.

But that doesn't mean I never ever worry about being a plus size girl, no. There are times when I feel low. There are days when I feel meh about the way I look. There are days when I get angry on GOD and ask him why he made me fat. And you know what ITS OK TO NOT BE OK. Its ok to feel bad sometimes. Its normal to not like yourself ones in a while. Cause that will give you that kick to love yourself even more. To embrace yourself and to accept things the way they are and enjoy your life even more.
When I first got into beauty and fashion,I was really self conscious, embarrass about me being trendy. What people will think?What if they laugh at me? Was I making a fool of myself? I was really scared.But eventually I learned that people see what you show to them. If you feel beautiful, you look beautiful. And still if some people talk behind your back, well those a@#holes belongs where they are, behind you. Don't care about them. Remember they talk about you cause they are pure Jealous and they can never be as confident as you. If you are confident you can carry anything gracefully. Its not about your figure, its about your attitude.Its about your personality. When we go out, we don't go with a board around our neck with our weight written on it. We go with our personality. Boost that.
So long story short exercise, change your lifestyle, do whatever you want but never ever let that trivial number on your weighing machine rule your life. You rule our life. Your life is under your control. A number is not incharge of your happiness. So next time when you step on that machine and it shows a number, treat it as a number not as YOU.
Be happy, be confident and walk with your head high....And stay gorgeous cause you totally worth it.

My Experience as a Plus Size Girl

Have you ever being called FAT in your life ??? Well I have dealt with this all my life. All my life I have been a Plus size girl. And I would never say NO to the fact that life wasn't a bed of roses for me. I had seen days when I used to hide at home so that no one would comment on my body, there were days when I would skip any social occasions/ get together so that some aunty/ some relative will pick me and my weight as a "topic" of their discussion. Even media played a vital role that time to bring down my self esteem. Well there was this time when I felt disgusted about myself. It was not because I didn't look good rather it was because after hearing so much negative I some what accepted in my head that I am ugly, I am alien, I am good for nothing, I am a curse, I am a piece of s*%t !!! I never spoke about this to anyone and was going into a depression all by myself. This will happen when a child is being picked up by this cruel society and being judged for such a trivial thing i.e. Figure/Weight/Size. 
One day while shopping for my birthday, I saw a dress which was so pretty but I couldn't buy it coz they didn't have it in my size. I got another dress. But was so sad from inside. Then I saw another girl who was slim choosing that dress. But she couldn't take the dress coz it was out of her budget. That very moment I dont know what changed in me. While our way back home, I told my dad that "Baba, even if I am fat I have so many other things which many slim girls don't have." My dad said,"Yes, we all have our own blessings." I went home and while sleeping for the first time unlike other nights, I thanked God in my prayers.
The other morning I was changed. I mean it was a new morning for me. I felt good about myself, about how I look, about how my life is. My views really changed and got more positive. All my life I have been into sports, dancing and now into beauty and fashion. I have done stuffs I love doing. No matter what people said. Now after many many years I have evolve as a more positive person and a person with an enormous self esteem. Yes, even now I hear people talking about my body. But now I don't care. I have got the best and supportive family, I do things that I love and enjoy, I am healthy, I am happy and positive. Last but not the least I am Fat and Fabulous !!!
From my journey till now as a plus size girl, I have learned a few lessons which I want to share with you so that you don't shut yourself in a room a sorrow and negativity. We all deal with many negative things in our lives like body image, skin color, status, many more... We can't change other's mentality but a thing that we can change in ours way to live. Live life in a much happier way. 

• EMBRACE YOURSELF : Love yourself. People can comment on your looks, your character, but remember one thing you are the only one who can judge yourself.If you feel you are beautiful then you are...no matter what others say. If you love yourself, you will start seeing a whole lot of changes in your life.
• LIVE YOUR DREAMS : Do whatever you love doing. You love fashion, go for it. Dress yourself. Do whatever gives you happiness. People will say things, let them say. Never stop doing things for others. Do whatever you love to do. If you do stuffs you enjoy, then you will be happier and more positive.
• COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS : You have many things that others don't have. You are fortunate and start counting them. You will soon forget the odds in your life.
• EXERCISE : Do not exercise to loose weight, rather exercise to stay fit. To stay healthy. Fat, thin, all these are not important. One thing that is important is GOOD HEALTH. There are many plus size people who are healthy and many size zero people who are unhealthy. So change start focusing on good health. and not on numbers.
• One last suggestion for the friends and families. Stay supportive. Don't always talk about the persons body image. This will make him/her conscious and will put down his/her's confidence. Support and talk about positive stuffs. 

Thanks a lot guys for stopping by. I hope you liked this post. Do comment below and share your views. I love hearing from you all.

Next time when some one calls your fat turn around and say to him/her, "I am blessed, God bless you too ;) "

It Comes from Within

Happiness comes from within.

Lately I feel like I've been getting a little moody and turning the littlest things into a problem when they dont need to be.

I don't want to be like that. Life is too short to be worried about things and thinking about stuff I don't need to. It's just a waste of time. I want to live my life in happiness and sharing love.

It's just something I need to work on. Controlling myself to calm down, take a breath and think positive! Sometimes I just panic and think about negativity, I need to just relax. Think about the good things in life and how lucky I am to be living here! There are so many other things going on around the world which is ALOT worse than the little things I think about.

I will try my best to be a better person. To live in happiness. It all comes from WITHIN yourself, not from things around you.


So Stay Positive and Be Happy Always :)

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff ... and it's all small stuff

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff ... and it's all small stuff by Richard Carlson.

I came across this amazing book and I am totally in love with it.Its such a great inspirational book.It has positively changed my way of looking into stuffs and handling situations.The purpose of the book is to get you to look at things, common situations we all come across everyday, like being criticized or being given more work than you can possibly finish,differently.Its such a book which can degrade our frustration level and make us a more positive person.

We face many situation in which we are trapped and dwell over it for much time, hence we waste our time and energy which we could have implemented in a much constructive job.This book basically help us not being trapped in negative and destructive situation and live our life much productively.

We all spend so much of their life energy "sweating the small stuff" that they completely lose touch with the magic and beauty of life.Change the things that can be changed, accept those that cannot, and have the wisdom to know the difference.


Take care and Stay Positive

1 a Minute : From the claws of BREAST CANCER

Few weeks ago my hubby downloaded a documentary movie for me to see.I am never tempted to watch such movies.But finally I saw it.1 a Minute. Its a documentary by Namrata Singh Gujral and  is based around her own life and the lives of other women and their battle with Cancer.
After seeing this I realized how many women in this world are trapped by this evil web of cancer and how many of them are battling and literally getting out of the evil trap.Its a movie or series of true incidents which demonstrates the 'NEVER GIVE UP' spirits of a person suffering from Cancer and winning over it.
This documentary features many female celebrities from around the world and conveys their experiences and their journey from getting into the claws of cancer till getting out of it.
Its a must must must watch for all....
You can download it from here
We can always fight and win over every obstacles....Its all about fighting and keep on fighting till our last breathe.......

Self Esteem

Self-esteem isn't raving about how great you are. It's more like knowing that you're worth a lot.Priceless. It's not about thinking you're perfect,because nobody is, but knowing that you're worthy of being loved and accepted.Good self-esteem is important because it helps you to hold your head high and feel proud of yourself and what you can do. It gives you the courage to try new things and the power to believe in yourself. It lets you respect yourself.

All my life, I have had some bitter experiences.Life wasn't fair to me.I have had situations where I was all alone struggling to live.There were times I cried, I got hurt badly, I fell.But one day I got up.I understood one thing that this is MY LIFE and no ones comment going to affect it.Its actually not others but its me who is the creator or destructor of my life.And trust me guys that was the time when my confidence level just went high !!!!!! And today I am a happy woman.Leading a happy peaceful life.

People can comment on your looks, your character, but remember one thing you are the only one who can judge yourself.If you feel you are beautiful then you are...no matter what others say.Its you who can decide about your life.So rather than wasting your time thinking about them, just get up and face the world with confidence.You have it in you, its just that you need to explore it.

People still say many things but it just doesnt affect me at all.Coz I know one thing, people who say behind you are always BEHIND YOU and can never match your steps.So its worthless wasting anytime thinking about them.

Its your life and life is beautiful.Happiness, Problems, Smiles, Tears..these are the spices of life....Live life to the fullest....

Love yourself coz You totally worth it :)

Rain Rain DON'T Go Away :)

hey buddies.....

RAIN is something that makes me smile :) 2day I woke up to the sound of rain drops...
The weather 2day @Kuala Lumpur is soooooooo romantic...Yeah n I am alone :( Missing my hubby badly...
No he is not out of town...He s been to work :P

Just relaxing in the balcony and watching the rain gives an awesome feeling...I feels as if nature is showering love and happiness for us.

It reminds me of a poem ....

Rain rain DON'T go away,
Don't leave me alone 2day,
Happy Appy want 2drench,
Rain rain come again :)

Hope u all have a rocking weekend...
Have fun coz u totally worth it :) :)

No Expectations ---- No Disappointment

hey friends, 


Sorry for not posting anything yesterday...Everything needs a weekend 2enjoy and so do my blog :)


Anyways people say never expect anything and you will never be disappointed.Is it true???
To some extend YES....


Expectations !!! When we generally do anything we expect something in return.but all we get is disappointment.We love someone, do good for someone, take care of someone, and in the end the person doesn't even think you as a part of his world.It hurts, dreams shatters, your heart cries.


But is it correct to just breakdown because someone doesn't understand your value ??? No...
Are we going to stop loving because someone doesn't love us back ??? No....
Why to change ourselves for someone who is not worth it !!!


Well, its better to do our duty without expections... 

People are self-centered,
LOVE THEM ANYWAY

If you do Good you are not appreciated,

DO GOOD ANYWAY

If you are successful,
You will win false friends and true enemies,
SUCCEED ANYWAY

If you are honest,

people call you rude,

BE HONEST ANYWAY

If you stand for your rights,

people call you selfish,

STAND UP ANYWAY

People you help, 

attack you in return,

HELP OTHERS ANYWAY

Show the world what you are,

COZ YOU ARE THE BEST ANYWAY !!!

BE POSTIVE :-)

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.

Problems are the real essence of life....seriously they are.I mean imagine your life without any problems and challenges...Life sounds real boring without them....

problem !!!! is it so bad????I mean I didn't even bothered to write it in bold :) For me Problems are not bad, its rather our negative attitude which is bad...Its all here in our mind...Mind controls everything. A positive mind achieve happiness, joy, success out of every situation. Though it’s not easy, it’s important to stay positive in negative situations. Beat the negative situations by staying positive.

Here are the things I do while I am in any awful situation...

·         Take a NAP : whenever I am frustrated or upset about something, I put on some light music and just go to sleep.Sleep do help us get refreshed and think of a proper solution.

·         DONT PANIC : A calm mind can be 100 times more useful than an excited mind.So try not to panic and tackle the situation in a calm way.

·         Inside every negative there’s a hidden postitive : Sometimes we think about the bad thing so much that we almost avoid or ignore the positive hidden in it.Try to find the good out of anything bad.

·         Try to learn from mistake: If anything bad happens rather than crying over it, try to learn what led to it. And only then you can avoid the mishap in future.

·         Find a HOBBY : the best thing you can do is involve yourself  in something constructive.Start gyming, or dance classes, or anythin u enjoy doing.

·         Chocolates please: eat some chocos, or anything yummy and with chocolate..They are the ultimate stress-busters

·         Believe in yourself...never  underestimate yourself

·         Talk your heart out with your closet friend

·         Remember there a re  many people who are in worst condition than u, so thank god for givin u a better life.

Enjoy your life....

Coz you totally worth it....

:)